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Farewell, My Furry Kids

Posted on 25, October 2011

in Category Love, relationships, Uncategorized

Well the time came this past weekend. Our two dogs, my wife’s and my first “children”, graduated to the dog park in the sky. Ivy (16 year old Blue Merle Australian Shepherd) and Hunter (14 year old Black Chow Shepherd mix) lived long, relatively healthy lives, and in the end we felt that we had to assist them along their journey to allow them to leave with dignity and not wanting them to unduly suffer. Both Ivy and Hunter were adopted after an early life of abuse. Ivy sprung back very well, after she adjusted to her new family. From [&hellip

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Out of Work and All Stressed Out

Posted on 25, September 2011

in Category Employment, Integrity, Love, relationships, Society

For millions of Americans, being out of work one more day is an all to familiar situation. The jobs that people once had have been eliminated, bills are due, part-time jobs aren’t paying well, families need to eat, and unemployment is running out. For those who were the bread-winners, guilt, failure, hopelessness and stress can feel overwhelming. So how do you take care of yourself if you find yourself in this predicament? Don’t Let Your Career Define You Too many times we allow our job or lack thereof define our worth and value. When we are out of work, we [&hellip

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In Your Living Years

Posted on 1, February 2011

in Category Integrity, Love, relationships, Uncategorized

I am dedicating this blog to a great man, Gorman Fisher, aka Big Daddy. I grew up with a dad who worked a lot. His work was important to him, but it wasn’t until later that I truly realized why. As I kid, I wanted him to play with me, be at my baseball games, soccer games, scouting events, and while he made some of them, his attention to his work seemed to take precedence. I remember that when we did play pool together, he would beat me again and again, and was amazed that I would come back for [&hellip

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Your Body Is Not A Disneyland Part 8: The Morning After, or It’s Really Not You, but I’ve Gotta Go

Posted on 2, November 2010

in Category Integrity, Love, Media, sex, Society, Uncategorized

It has been a long road, but this will be the last post in my series about sex and how we treat our bodies, and just look where our fling has taken us. We started out in Part 1 with the sex talk, in Part 2 talked about love, Part 3 became lost in the throws of passion, Part 4 took a road trip with Vanessa in our guest post, had to stop and do our homework in Part 5, became distracted by the TV and media in Part 6, our real, feel, and ideal in Part 7, and now [&hellip

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Your Body Is Not A Disneyland Part 7: Perception, Disparity and Our Search for Acceptance

Posted on 19, September 2010

in Category Integrity, Love, relationships, sex, Society

I often talk about our real, feel and ideal with people. These three terms have to do with how people see us and our actions (our real), how we feel about ourselves deep down inside (our feel), and how we want to be seen by ourselves and others (our ideal). Often people have wide gaps between a few of these concepts, if not all three. The more separation between our real, feel, and ideal, usually the more distress a person feels in their life. When it comes to how we treat our bodies, there are often wide gaps between our [&hellip

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Your Body Is Not A Disneyland (Part 4) Vanessa’s Guest Post

Posted on 16, May 2010

in Category Integrity, Love, relationships, sex, Society, Uncategorized

In the last year, I became acquainted with Vanessa Van Petten, a very insightful and ambitious young woman who wrote a book about parenting as a teenager, You’re Grounded, from the teen’s perspective. She didn’t stop there, however. She since has developed a website called www.radicalparenting.com that also involves a number of teen writers to help educate parents on trends with teens and good advice for parents and kids, and she has appeared on various television shows as a youthologist and resource for teen behaviors. When I thought about writing this series, I wanted to team up with someone who could [&hellip

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Your Body Is Not A Disneyland (Part 3) Sex On The Brain

Posted on 21, April 2010

in Category Love, sex, Society, Uncategorized

…And We’re back with The Ultimate High Both sex and that eros type love discussed in Part 2 have very strong effects on the brain that can feel intoxicating in different ways. There are various ways that researchers can measure the concept of love and sex, but as one can imagine, with the lightning speed that things can happen when it comes to sex, recording and understanding that process can be a little more difficult. The experience of sex begins long before we may end up in the throes of passion. When sexual desire is activated, the amygdala (where powerful [&hellip

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Your Body Is Not A Disneyland (Part 2)

Posted on 9, March 2010

in Category Love, Media, Uncategorized

Welcome back. In my first installment, I discussed the nature of our relaxed attitudes toward sex. I feel that we are in a precarious position, and our children are in danger of suffering from our lack of self-respect. So let’s pick it up from here. What I always tell people is that even though we may have roots that connect us to the animal world, we also have a brain that functions at a higher level. The gift of our frontal lobe is that we can use our ability to reason to help manage our unavoidable more primal and animalistic [&hellip

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