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Farewell, My Furry Kids

Posted on 25, October 2011

in Category Love, relationships, Uncategorized

Well the time came this past weekend. Our two dogs, my wife’s and my first “children”, graduated to the dog park in the sky. Ivy (16 year old Blue Merle Australian Shepherd) and Hunter (14 year old Black Chow Shepherd mix) lived long, relatively healthy lives, and in the end we felt that we had to assist them along their journey to allow them to leave with dignity and not wanting them to unduly suffer. Both Ivy and Hunter were adopted after an early life of abuse. Ivy sprung back very well, after she adjusted to her new family. From [&hellip

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The Parable of the Broken Egg, Part 3: Advertising Fun with Dick and Jane

Posted on 17, May 2011

in Category Media, relationships, Society, Uncategorized

See Dick turn on the TV. See Jane sit down next to Dick. See Dick and Jane watch commercials. See Dick and Jane want everything they see. See Corporate America with $$ in their eyes, as they market adult items to the way too young. Have you noticed the moving target? Over the past decades, Corporate America has put their crosshairs on younger and younger kids. Advertising dollars are looking to gain lifetime consumers and brand loyalty, soon, out of the crib, by marketing everything from make-up to clothing to electronics and the latest move by Skechers to focus their [&hellip

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In Your Living Years

Posted on 1, February 2011

in Category Integrity, Love, relationships, Uncategorized

I am dedicating this blog to a great man, Gorman Fisher, aka Big Daddy. I grew up with a dad who worked a lot. His work was important to him, but it wasn’t until later that I truly realized why. As I kid, I wanted him to play with me, be at my baseball games, soccer games, scouting events, and while he made some of them, his attention to his work seemed to take precedence. I remember that when we did play pool together, he would beat me again and again, and was amazed that I would come back for [&hellip

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Mid-Life Christmas

Posted on 19, December 2010

in Category Holiday, Society, Uncategorized

I think we have all heard of a Mid-Life Crisis; well, I would like to add a wrinkle to this in discussing the Mid-Life Christmas. In my work as a therapist, I have had countless experiences with those in their late 30 to 40 “somethings” who find that the holidays are feeling emptier and emptier, and they are searching for the meaning in the holiday season. As adults, the holiday season is often rushed, and in our world of work and life, coincides with year-end deadlines, quotas to be reached, household issues to be taken care of, and the span [&hellip

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Your Body Is Not A Disneyland Part 8: The Morning After, or It’s Really Not You, but I’ve Gotta Go

Posted on 2, November 2010

in Category Integrity, Love, Media, sex, Society, Uncategorized

It has been a long road, but this will be the last post in my series about sex and how we treat our bodies, and just look where our fling has taken us. We started out in Part 1 with the sex talk, in Part 2 talked about love, Part 3 became lost in the throws of passion, Part 4 took a road trip with Vanessa in our guest post, had to stop and do our homework in Part 5, became distracted by the TV and media in Part 6, our real, feel, and ideal in Part 7, and now [&hellip

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Your Body Is Not A Disneyland, Part 6: The Media Machine

Posted on 14, July 2010

in Category Media, sex, Society, Uncategorized

So, it’s been a few weeks, and I hope you did your homework that I provided in my last post. I, too, have continued to pay attention to what I have seen and the sexual innuendo on various media sites goes from the very subtle to the obvious. The question I have is, “How many of us actively look at this and discriminate the content we are viewing and how that content affects our attitudes, emotions and beliefs?” Even more, how does that content affect our kids? Get Slinky I would like to provide you with a few examples that [&hellip

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Your Body Is Not A Disneyland (Part 4) Vanessa’s Guest Post

Posted on 16, May 2010

in Category Integrity, Love, relationships, sex, Society, Uncategorized

In the last year, I became acquainted with Vanessa Van Petten, a very insightful and ambitious young woman who wrote a book about parenting as a teenager, You’re Grounded, from the teen’s perspective. She didn’t stop there, however. She since has developed a website called www.radicalparenting.com that also involves a number of teen writers to help educate parents on trends with teens and good advice for parents and kids, and she has appeared on various television shows as a youthologist and resource for teen behaviors. When I thought about writing this series, I wanted to team up with someone who could [&hellip

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Your Body Is Not A Disneyland (Part 3) Sex On The Brain

Posted on 21, April 2010

in Category Love, sex, Society, Uncategorized

…And We’re back with The Ultimate High Both sex and that eros type love discussed in Part 2 have very strong effects on the brain that can feel intoxicating in different ways. There are various ways that researchers can measure the concept of love and sex, but as one can imagine, with the lightning speed that things can happen when it comes to sex, recording and understanding that process can be a little more difficult. The experience of sex begins long before we may end up in the throes of passion. When sexual desire is activated, the amygdala (where powerful [&hellip

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Your Body Is Not A Disneyland (Part 2)

Posted on 9, March 2010

in Category Love, Media, Uncategorized

Welcome back. In my first installment, I discussed the nature of our relaxed attitudes toward sex. I feel that we are in a precarious position, and our children are in danger of suffering from our lack of self-respect. So let’s pick it up from here. What I always tell people is that even though we may have roots that connect us to the animal world, we also have a brain that functions at a higher level. The gift of our frontal lobe is that we can use our ability to reason to help manage our unavoidable more primal and animalistic [&hellip

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If It’s Broke, Don’t Fix It

Posted on 20, January 2010

in Category Imposter Syndrome, Society, Uncategorized, Victims

Some of you may be thinking, “Dr. E…, you’ve got that all wrong. It’s supposed to be ‘If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it’.” Well let me tell you all, we’ve got trouble… right here in River City…with a capital T that rhymes with P… (sorry, I digress). But seriously, we do have problems that we need to face in our culture, and consistently we don’t face them. We close our eyes, turn our deaf ear, blame others, play the victim and look to be rescued, and often pick sides on issues that directly affect us all that does nothing [&hellip

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